Posts Tagged ‘Curly Guy’

Trim Scare

22 April 2016 Leave a comment

I’d done everything else recommended by the CG Method: toss out sulfate and silicone products, figure out your best washing schedule depending on my own hair’s needs and transition, don’t use a brush & only use a wide toothed comb in the shower (if at all), and scrunch with a t-shirt (instead of a towel) to dry my hair. I had done everything else, except get my hair trimmed.

The trim had me nervous. I knew I needed it – I had needed it for a while. Before, I’d have said something like, “I need less hair. Let’s lose the curls, but not so short that it spikes.”

Now that I have fallen in love with my curls, I had a (silly) fear that the curls would not come back, so I made a plan: Only cut half-an-inch off the tips, to get rid of the split and stripped ends that fray and add to my fuzzy mane plus a little off the left and right back corners to shape it up.

I went to Head Start, where I have gone for the past 5 years, hoping they might be understanding about my new curly head. keep-calm-live-curly

I walked in and she said, “Hi. I have never seen your hair that long.”
She asked about my curls and what I wanted. She listened, asked questions, and did what I asked. I left feeling very good about the experience – until I got to a bathroom and looked in a mirror, again. The cut was good and shaped well, and my hair was wavy, but there were no individual curls anywhere. I told myself it was due to her spraying it and pulling the hair during the cutting that separated the curls. It would be alright. Worse case, it would grow back. I put it out of my mind and went on with my day, avoiding looking in a mirror the rest of the day.

This morning, I conditioned my hair in the shower and scrunched it with a t-shirt. I stepped out and wiped off the mirror, then I grinned at myself. If anything, I might have had more curls this morning than before the trim. Before the trim, I could feel my hair slap my ears when I shook my head, today, I feel my curls brush against my ears.


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Curly Guy – Week 1

20 April 2016 Leave a comment

CG, Curly Girl, Curly Guy…. Get it? Good.

According to the CG Method, the first 1-3 weeks can be a “transition” as the scalp and hair get used to the change in washing frequency and product(s) used, mostly as the oil production levels out when not being stripped by sulfates and hair not being smothered by silicones.

I was rarely in the habit of washing my hair every day, preferring every other or third day between shampoos. My hair washing frequency was dictated by the point when I could not stand the oily state of my hair.

I have learned, from the book and online research, that the overly oily state of my hair was
mostly my fault: Washing with a sulfate shampoo stripped the natural oils and my scalp made extra oil to try to replenish what was lost.

co-washAfter dumping my shampoo, I went looking for something I could use that was CG friendly. After a false start trying something that made my curls feel wonderful, I found out that it contained a silicone, so I kept looking. Again, after much reading, research, and comparison, I settled on a Co-Wash – Shea Moisture’s Coconut & Hibiscus Co-Wash Conditioning Cleanser

Sunday, I co-washed my hair for the new week. Monday, I got up and my hair stuck out in crazy directions. It was curly, but I couldn’t go to work looking like a mad scientist, so I co-washed again. My hair was clean and wonderful. I went to work feeling better after a shower than I had in a long time. Tuesday morning came and my hair looked good-ish, but lacked the curly freshness of Monday, so not knowing what I could do, I co-washed again and headed off to work.

Tuesday, through still more reading, I alleviated my concern of “over-conditioning” my hair (okay, laugh it up, but having never conditioned my hair before this, I just didn’t know.) Additionally, I found out that many other “curlies” seek something that they can apply, spray or spritz to their hair on the 2nd or 3rd day to revive their curls, too.

Since I don’t, typically, move a lot while asleep, I made a concerted effort, Tuesday night, to smooth my hair against the pillow before I went to sleep. This morning, my hair was mostly in the right places – nothing sticking straight up – so a few spread-finger fluffs to wake up my curls and I was ready to meet my day.

I’ve only been at this for a week, but my transition, probably helped by my not stripping my hair every day, is going pretty smoothly. I still need to get my long needed trim, but I’m thinking that I just need that – a trim – instead of a chopping of everything that even looks wavy.

I’m not looking to get crazy paying all this attention to my hair, but like anyone, I want my hair to look good.

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New Hair Day

16 April 2016 Leave a comment

Call me late to the party. Call me short-sighted. I have now opened my eyes and am ready to face some truths.

My realization started when we buried my father. It is still painful thinking back to that day and the preceding 2 months. He went in for his second knee replacement. Following a very successful surgery and first physical therapy session, he lost consciousness, never recovering and finally passing 72 days later, a month before his 76th birthday.

My father was regarded by most people as the “real” Santa Claus. His full belly, bushy natural beard and white hair hanging to his shoulders added to his demeanor to complete the picture in a lot of people’s minds as what constituted Santa and Dad embodied it all.

Following the burial, I got busy and though needing a trim, I just didn’t get my hair cut. As my hair gets a little longer, it gets a lot thicker and curls on the ends, despite my best efforts all my life to eradicate the curls. (Thanks, Dad). My 49th birthday came and went and still I didn’t get the needed trim. By this time we were in the throes of trying to sell our old house. I kept putting off a haircut until after the house sold.

As my hair continued to grow, the long hated curls came into full bloom, moving past the curly tips and a consistent wavy to my hair and developing into loose curls all over my head.

Getting dressed one morning, I was looking in the mirror and wondering what I could with my new-found “curly-ness” to make it behave. I did the only thing I could do on days like this, I washed it to get it to lay down and brushed it flat before heading to work.

Later, researching what I could do with my hair, I happened on references to a book called Curly Girl: The Handbook, having been recently updated. Intrigued by a chapter in this book for men with curls, I picked it up and gave it a quick read.

I was shocked to find out that I wasn’t as ecological as I thought I was. I, of course, knew about the sulfate poisons in laundry detergent and had not used them in years, but I didn’t think of the same things being in my shampoo. I was informed that Sulfates were as bad for people as they were for the environment and unnecessary.

The book opened my eyes and I found curls in my mirror to be cherished and celebrated, instead of being cut and “chemmed” out of existence. I am finding the courage to not fight my nature as a curly head.

I have tossed my sulfate ridden shampoo, actually going no-poo until I can find a curl friendly sulfate free shampoo, for those times I really need a good hair cleansing. The rest of my family had already gotten this message, it seems, as they had switched to Wen, dumping their shampoos over a year ago. Okay, I’m late to the party, but give me enough time, and I’ll figure it out.

I’ve said NO to Sulfates and YES to my natural curls.

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